CODE OF CONDUCT
If you’ve followed our process leading up to this event, you know that community accountability is where we started. We love you. Our intent is to serve this community as well as possible. We’re not perfect and we own that. We can only be transparent and constantly willing to learn. This document was designed with that in mind. We are so grateful for your patience while we create new ways to serve our community.
If you ever feel like our policies are out of date or we’re not upholding them, we hope you will call us in. There’s an open door for feedback. You can email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. We will also accept reports (including anonymously) at https://forms.gle/9QzJkKTuqeVox5ZAA. As we work towards a better understanding of the needs of the community, we may add, remove, or adjust wording to further align this document with our shared values. If we alter this document prior to the Event, we will update you via email so that you can review it.
We are working to keep our community safe, and that means we all — organizers and community members alike — need to agree to behave in ways which we believe will best accomplish this goal. Thank you for reading and abiding by the principles of this Code of Conduct.
My own behaviors/actions.
How I respond to behaviors/actions of others.
I am a valued member of the dance community. No matter my background, experience, or ideas, I have something valuable to contribute.
I value and respect all members of the community, no matter their background, experience, or ideas. They also have something valuable to contribute.
I respect my own physical, mental, and emotional boundaries.
I respect the stated physical, mental, and emotional boundaries of everyone.
I stay attuned to and attend to my own needs first.
I give space to allow others to attend to their needs.
I can ask anyone to dance.
Anyone may ask me to dance. Regardless of whether I choose to dance this song with this partner, I appreciate that they wanted to dance with me.
I am empowered to say no to any request. If I need to, I will leave any dance/workshop/space/interaction at any time for any reason. No explanation is necessary, and if I choose to give one, that’s a bonus.
If someone chooses to leave an interaction with me, I know that they are attending to their own needs, and that their actions do not necessarily reflect on me or my value. I do not ask for an explanation; if I receive one, that’s a bonus.
When dancing, the safety and comfort of myself, my partner, and other people around me is my highest priority. I do not attempt dips, aerials, or other movements which compromise anyone’s safety.
I lead by suggesting movement. It is up to my follow to choose whether they follow that movement. I never force my follow to move.
As a follow, I may choose to engage or not engage in any movement that is led.
I always establish explicit consent before engaging with or touching someone. I never assume consent. I know that consent to a dance does not imply consent to all movements, all touching, etc.
If I have consented to something in the past, that does not mean I am required to consent to it now or in the future. However, I may need to make the change in my consent status known to others.
If I have obtained consent for something in the past, that does not imply that I still have consent, or that that person will always consent.
I avoid making assumptions about the race, sexuality, gender, history, etc. of others. Instead, I ask if someone is open to discussing their identity. I don’t take it personally if the answer is “No.”
In our community, we respect gender diversity. I will ask what pronouns people use, or default to gender-neutral pronouns, such as “they/them/theirs.”
I respect the confidentiality of others. I share my own stories, and either obtain consent, or maintain anonymity if I desire to share someone else’s story.
I will act in a way that keeps the best interests of my community in mind.
I assume that everyone’s actions have positive intent. I give others the benefit of the doubt.
I am empowered to speak, whether it is to make my needs known, or to say that something doesn’t feel right to me. If I don't tell them, it is difficult for others to help me meet my needs or change behaviors that feel uncomfortable to me.
If someone expresses their needs to me, I may choose to assist them in meeting those needs. If I do not, I will still respect their needs. I will not interfere with their ability to meet their needs.
If I am struggling to meet my own needs, I can ask for help from the Care Team *any time.* If that is beyond my capacity in the moment, I will try to get myself to the Quiet Room, where there will be non-verbal communication methods available to indicate my level of desired interaction or need.
I care deeply about my community, and I am attentive to the subtle cues of those around me. If I see someone struggling or showing signs of distress or anxiety, I will gently check in with them, and/or help them get to the Quiet Room so that the Care Team can further assist them.
If I have a concern about a specific person, I can address it with that person directly if I feel safe doing so.
If someone brings up a concern with me, I will listen with an open mind, and do my best to access empathy, and avoid internal or verbal defensiveness.
I will be aware of the effects my behavior has on others, and accept responsibility for it. I acknowledge that I have made mistakes which caused harm, and I will likely do so again in the future. I will endeavor to learn and grow from my mistakes. It is not my mistakes that define me, but the way I choose (or choose not) to repair them.
If I need help negotiating a situation, I can find an Organizer or Care Team Member to assist me or address it for me, with or without my direct involvement, depending on what feels safe to me.
I expect to be approached if I have caused harm. Sometimes I will not know that this is the case, and I will be surprised. If someone approaches me, it is not a judgment of my character. Instead, it is an opportunity to learn. If I feel shocked, angry, ashamed, etc. that is normal, but I avoid responding defensively, because it could leave problematic behavior unaddressed and cause further harm.
I ask for consent prior to taking photographs or video of other people. I am mindful of photo opt-out bracelets, and do not capture the likeness of those wearing them.
Whether or not I am wearing a photo opt-out bracelet, I am empowered to ask anyone taking photos/videos to delete the content which contains my likeness.
If someone asks me to delete photos or videos of them, I will do so without hesitation.
I practice good hygiene for my own sake and that of others.
I maintain a level of sobriety which enables me to do all of the above.
If I notice that someone’s sobriety is compromised, I will recognize that their ability to authentically consent is likewise compromised, and exercise care and caution in my interactions with them. If I feel their behavior is inappropriate, I will express that to an Organizer or Care Team Member.
Members of the community have allergies, which can be very severe. Please keep the space free from:
Smoke, vaporizers, marijuana, etc.
Strong scents, such as cologne, perfume, spray deodorants, or essential oils.
Pets (Service animals are not considered pets.)
High-Fidelity Fusion is meant to be a safe space, though no space is entirely safe for everyone. You may encounter a situation at the Event which puts you outside your comfort zone.
If someone brings a concern to an Organizer, the Organizers will work together to try to find a path of de-escalation and reconciliation. They do not promise that they will succeed. It is possible that an Organizer or support person may ask me to leave. If I am asked to leave, I will do so quickly and quietly. Being asked to leave is not a judgement of my character; the Organizers will prioritize the safety of someone who says they have been hurt before embarking on a thorough investigation what happened. Everyone has the right to be treated fairly and honestly by the community, but nobody has the irrevocable right to be part of it. The lasting, pervasive and unequal nature of trauma in our society means the Organizers will make the best choices for the community — and for people who are harmed — first.